Extramarital affairs can be a traumatic experience for couples, causing feelings of anger, rejection, fear, grief and loss of trust. It can ultimately destroy the relationship.

Infidelity can shatter even the strongest relationship, leaving behind feelings of betrayal, guilt, and anger. For the one-quarter of married couples who have suffered this breach of loyalty, according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, overcoming those feelings can be extremely difficult.

I offer counseling for overcoming infidelity to men and women who have just discovered their spouse has been unfaithful and need to figure out where to go from there. Making the decision whether to stay or go can be agonizing. Nothing rocks a person’s sense of self, trust, and marriage more than infidelity. I also frame this experience of trauma as “not the eventual breakdown of the relationship”. I believe it is possible to rebuild trust and intimacy after an affair. Contrary to conventional wisdom, some affairs can actually transform a relationship. I help couples rebuild trust after an infidelity as I understand different cultural perspectives on affairs. As I help couples work through affairs separation doesn’t always have to be the outcome. Developing a new relationship and establishing intimacy can be the alternative.

So, if you’re struggling with what to do with your relationship, I’d like to help you as you make a decision that works for you. If you could use some support and help with this situation, know that you don’t have to go through this alone.

if you have just found out about such a betrayal and wondering if you should stay “in” or “leave” your relationship please call me at (858) 735-1139. I can help you with options to make the right decision for you and your family.